Thoughts| “The Churched Black Feminist” by Jamie D Crumley

I was on Instagram and ended up reading this post called “The Churched Black Feminist” written by Jamie D. Crumley over at http://www.iamfreeagent.com. To sum up the main idea of the post, the author is basically proposing the question of whether religion and feminism are antithetical to one another (author thinks no), and if one can consider themselves a faithful Christian and a feminist (author thinks yes).

I wasn’t able to state my opinion very eloquenty, but Instagram user superniggafeminist was able to capture my thoughts, and then some in her response:

I too have found myself identifying more as spiritual, rather than religious as my body of knowledge increases, and I attempt to learn more about other groups of people. In my opinion, I think that there are too many politics attached to religion (as @superniggafeminist states, and Jamie explains as well). There are also too many contradictory messages for me. I admit, there is ignorance on my end, but I do not see how one can exercise compassion and love for another, regardless of lifestyle (whether that encompass homosexuality, premarital sex, sexual liberation, etc) but still believe them to be damned. These words may not accurately capture the full scope of what I mean, but yeah.

Also, as pointed out above, there are too many other messages in the Bible and other religious text that negate the argument being made in this post. The few examples given do not encompass the nuances feminist thought and values support.

You can view the post here to read the author’s points, and further develop your thoughts. You can also view the Instagram post here which contains the commentary I mentioned above.

What are your thoughts?

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-Court

Original post: https://www.iamfreeagent.com/blog/2017/3/18/the-churched-black-feminist

Facts About Me| Courtenay’s Beauty Box

In the spirit of shaking things up a bit, here are 5 facts about me!

5 Facts About Me

I’m an INFJ

INFJs tend to be sensitive, quiet leaders with a great depth of personality. They are intricately, deeply woven, quilt-like, mysterious, highly complex, and often puzzling, even to themselves. They have an orderly view toward the world but are internally arranged in a complex way that only they can understand. Abstract in communicating, they live in a world of hidden meanings and possibilities. With a natural affinity for art, INFJs tend to be creative and easily inspired, yet they may also do well in the sciences, aided by their intuition.

NFJs are believed to adapt easily in social situations due to their complex understanding of an individual’s motivations; however, they are true introverts. INFJs are private individuals who prefer to exercise their influence behind the scenes. Though they are very independent, INFJs are intensely interested in the well-being of others. INFJs prefer one-on-one relationships to large groups. Sensitive and complex, they are adept at understanding complicated issues and driven to resolve differences in a cooperative and creative manner. – source

I love the colour blue (even though everything on this site is green)

It is often associated with depth and stability.

Blue is strongly associated with tranquility and calmness.

Light blue is associated with health, healing, tranquility, understanding, and softness.
Dark blue represents knowledge, power, integrity, and seriousness. – source

Favourite animal is an elephant 

The strength of the elephant is tremendous. No other animal on land can match the elephant. It knows its own strength, and confidently strides across the plains aware of its power. It also uses wisdom, and is very intelligent, and thinks things through to all of its conclusions. – source

Tea > coffee

Tea People: When people ask you what you’re planning on doing with your life, you generally curl up into a small ball à la Roly Poly and cry softly to yourself. You have way too many books you plan on reading — and Tumblr posts you plan on reblogging — to consider things in terms of “career.” You are not really upwardly mobile, professionally speaking, but that’s okay. You’re just figuring things out. You’ll get to it. It will be fine. – source (I thought this was so fitting for this semester haha)

 

I am a Scorpio through & through 

I just want to preface anything I put below by saying I don’t take these things to heart. I do think that the things they write about Scorpio’s are funny at times though. But, anyway…

Personality

Beneath a controlled, cool exterior beats the heart of the deeply intense Scorpio. Passionate, penetrating, and determined, this sign will probe until they reach the truth. The Scorpio may not speak volumes or show emotions readily, yet rest assured there’s an enormous amount of activity happening beneath the surface. Excellent leaders, Scorpions are always aware. When it comes to resourcefulness, this sign comes out ahead. – source

Do any of these things ring true for you? Tell me a bit about yourselves! Let me know on social media 🙂

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-Court

#GivingTuesday with Breakthrough U.S.!


Hey there everyone!

I mentioned very briefly in my September (or October) Favourites that I am participating in a fellowship with Breakthrough U.S. We are a human rights organization working to end gender based violence each and every day through culture change! I’m beyond grateful to have been granted such an opportunity, and very happy with the work I have been doing. I know in the Bloggersphere, we are often bombarded by links to companies and so on and so forth, so you may not be inclined to click this, however, I promise you this is worth it.

Tomorrow is #GivingTuesday, and in the post linked below, all Breakthrough is asking is that *you* share ideas for an action that can help create SAFE and INCLUSIVE spaces for college students across the country. Not hard at all, right? Start a discussion with your friends! Tag ’em into the post if you’d like! Share it! Most of all, don’t shy away from posting because you are embarrassed of an idea, or think that it is “stupid.” There’s power in words, and yours matter 😊

Check out the post here

Btw, not kidding when I say you should share. I spent my first 3 in college analyzing things on campus that I felt weren’t being handled properly, and that made students feel unwelcomed, but never thought I could do much to fix it. While it is proving to be a lot of hard work, working with, and sharing my ideas with Breakthrough has really helped me find my voice, and validate my observations. I have never felt as empowered to make on-ground change as I am now, and that is something I will always be thankful for. So, please don’t think your ideas are too small 💕

Have a great day!

-Court

“Travels” by Michael Crichton| Reflection + Thoughts


I received this book as a gift from my advisor last fall semester or this past spring (I can’t remember), and it has truly changed my life a bit. I was thinking about making a video for this, but haven’t had time (this post was supposed to be published months ago – oops).

From the bestselling author of Jurassic ParkTimeline, and Sphere comes a deeply personal memoir full of fascinating adventures as he travels everywhere from the Mayan pyramids to Kilimanjaro.

Fueled by a powerful curiosity—and by a need to see, feel, and hear, firsthand and close-up—Michael Crichton’s journeys have carried him into worlds diverse and compelling—swimming with mud sharks in Tahiti, tracking wild animals through the jungle of Rwanda. This is a record of those travels—an exhilarating quest across the familiar and exotic frontiers of the outer world, a determined odyssey into the unfathomable, spiritual depths of the inner world. It is an adventure of risk and rejuvenation, terror and wonder, as exciting as Michael Crichton’s many masterful and widely heralded works of fiction. – Amazon.com

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Why I Blog

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This was originally published August 2015. Edited August 2016.

In the hopes to diversify the content of my blog, and display some more of who I am, I’m going to do things a little differently this time. Instead of a beauty product review/first impression, style collage, shout out, or the like, I’m going to discuss a question I think we all as bloggers have been faced with – why do we do it? What is it that propels some of us to continually devote hours of our lives on something many see as just a hobby…when to us it is so much more?

I can’t speak for everyone, but I know I blog because it has given me a voice.

Background

I’ve never opened up about this on here, but I suffer from major depressive disorder. It has been a huge hindrance and nuisance in my life for many years, and has had an immense impact on my social life, relationships – platonic and romantic, physical health, and of course mental and emotional health. For YEARS I have felt like a prisoner within my own mind.

A lack of self-worth and self-love led to self imposed isolation, a deterioration of friendships, repeated disappointment, misery, loneliness, and most importantly, an overwhelming sense of despair and lack of motivation to continue on. So many self defeating thoughts and negative affirmations would constantly dart through my head; I couldn’t sleep, I would drive myself to the point of not being able to eat, my body was weak, I was constantly tired….my body and mind were rapidly deteriorating. It came to a point where I felt as if I were at a loss.

Through all of this, as I mentioned before, I was isolating myself to an extent. In this time, when I wasn’t asleep, I was on my computer watching beauty YouTube videos. I had been watching these “gurus” for a few years now, but found that these types of videos were increasingly providing me comfort in a way. I could watch the videos and learn, and more importantly see how much knowledge I had picked up over the years. I don’t know what it was/is about these videos, but learning about all of the new products, seeing how they are so creatively used by so many to create countless looks, and understanding so much information about such a vast array of products fascinated me.

The “Spark”

Watching so many of these videos, especially those done by people around my age like Lauren Ross made me think, “I know a decent amount about products, what’s stopping me from talking about them?” Now, I was in no way, shape, or form prepared to delve into YouTube, but I did (and do) enjoy writing. What better way to combine the two than start a blog?

So there I was, a short while before Thanksgiving Break, with my new blog. At first it was just an outlet for me – a place where I would go to spend time and take my mind off of the annoying invasive negative thoughts that were plaguing me. Over time, I began to pour more and more time into it: paying closer attention to the content I was producing, working to improve the additional aspects of my posts like photographs and images, learning graphic editing to improve the aesthetic of posts, and working to improve the design of my site.

The Blog

So what does that have to do with why I blog? Everything.

Blogging has transformed, for me, from a hobby and way to pass time to a “therapy” of sorts. Through blogging, I have broken through the initial layer of my fear of my success. Every little achievement I have seen through blogging, from new followers to number of posts, has given me an affirmation that I do have some semblance of ability. My words do mean something to at least one person out there, and I am able to succeed at something. I’ve been able to engage with so many lovely people both on here and on Twitter, and each engagement teaches me something new about blogging that I am able to use to improve my skills. As I improve, my confidence only increases.

This is something that I have put so much time to, and to see it unfold the way it has provides me with such a sense of elation…I can’t even explain it. Blogging has re-introduced passion into my life, purpose, and a new sense of drive. Of course, depression doesn’t just stop. I still go through peaks and troughs….highs and lows where sometimes those feelings of despair will come back, or I’ll overthink myself into a crisis, but when that happens I am now able to focus that energy on communicating with other bloggers on Twitter, or curating a blog post.

I’m no longer highly skeptical of the heights I can reach, or my abilities. I have goals that aren’t driven by the motions of life, but an inner passion that grows stronger each day. Most of all, I feel a sense of worth. It is for those reasons that I blog, and why I will continue to for as long as I am able 🙂

The Future

I am not looking to turn this into a career or anything or that sort, but since I originally wrote this, I now have a firmer grasp on the idea that I will pursue my passions and live happily off of them. I refuse to submit to the idea that I have to sacrifice what I love or what makes me happy in order to reach success. Of course, sacrifices will have to be made, but there is no reason why I should have to hide myself or my journey. I hope to use my background and experiences to help others, and I refuse to cower behind them or be made to feel like they make me a weak person.

I hope that wasn’t too somber of a post, it is just something I felt the need to share. Over the past few weeks, so many opportunities and growth opportunities have blossomed, and I couldn’t help but sit back and feel thankful for my blog for helping me connect to all of these opportunities and great people. I am not allowing those who feel as if people can’t take blogging up as a hobby are less than or anything of that sort.

For some, this is truly an outlet and a way to heal, don’t take that away from them by invalidating their reasons for starting.

I’ve shared why I blog, but why do you? Please share, I would love to hear 🙂

Until next time

-Court

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That’s Not How It Goes…|College Tings

That's Not How It GoesI was on Twitter and ended up reading The Icing on the Playlist’s post titled, “I’m Doing College Wrong + I Don’t Care.” As soon as I read it, I felt like someone had snatched all of (or most of) the sentiments I’ve had about college thus far, but that I wasn’t able to articulate. Sure, I touched on a couple of things here, but I tend to be long-winded without actually getting to the point. Basically, that post didn’t get across what I really wanted to say.

I thought it would be interesting to respond to rattle off in a more succinct way the things I am “doing wrong” when it comes to my experience. Read the post that inspired this!

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Liebster Award

Liebster Award

Like the new facelift?? Still a couple of tweaks to make here and there, but overall…

Huge thanks to my blogging fraternal/name twin Courtney over for nominating me for the Liebster Award 😊 This summer was full of many blogging woes, and she gave me so many warming affirmations that, whether she knows or not, have really boosted my motivation to keep making my blog better. So, aside from the award, thanks for that too girl! You’re great! You should definitely go take a look at her blog! Her writing is great, and her art work is even better! You won’t be sorry, trust me.

But, without further ado: here we go!

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Tips for Buying Textbooks In College

Tips for Buying Textbooks in College

Back to school season is among us, and for those returning to college, there’s always that one aspect we hate dealing with: buying textbooks.

They’re stupid expensive, they’re heavy, and sometimes you don’t even end up using them. I know, purchasing textbooks is the worst. Fear not though, I hope to share some of my favourite resources for getting textbooks for the low – saving your sanity and your wallet.

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Unpopular Opinion| 5 Reasons Why: I HATE the beach

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Summer time: The sun is blazing, the air is hot, and after Memorial Day, this means the beach is open. Exciting, right?

No.

Yeah, I said it. It’s not exciting. I don’t like the beach. It’s my introvert hell. When friends tell me they want to go to the beach, my insides cringe. Sometimes I’ll swallow my comfort and go, but for the most part, I try to avoid it at all costs. I don’t know what it is, but I’ve never liked the beach since I was a child. Here are 5 few reasons why:

Too many people. I am a self-proclaimed introvert (and probably a highly-sensitive person as well), I get overwhelmed by being places where there are too many people for a sustained amount of time. I don’t mean things like being in a movie theater where everyone is sitting down, but here, like the beach where everyone is yelling, running, swimming etc. It’s too much and it puts a damper on my mood. I like to just chill for the most part, but all of the external things going on throw that off and disrupt my zen. Then, people typically like to stay at the beach for hours (or the whole day) which makes things even worse. The couple times I have been dragged there, I’m usually ready to leave after an hour or two. Everyone else? Nope. All in all, there’s just too much going on.

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Sand….everywhere! I know, duh. Of course there’s sand everywhere…it’s a beach. I don’t mind walking down a beach, but if I am, I need to do it at my own pace and when there’s not lots of people around. I enjoy the scenery of the beach, but I hate standing or sitting for .005 seconds and ending up with sand grains under my fingernails and inside my ear. Sand is nature’s glitter – you only need be exposed for a couple seconds before it ends up everywhere, and once it does, it’s hard to get out. Again going along with the sensitive thing, I don’t like the feeling of things being tacked onto my skin. It’s the same reason why I tend to not like being outside for sustained periods of time when the weather is extremely warm. I feel like everything sticks to my skin and I get really uncomfortable and itchy. Same goes for sand. Don’t like it one bit.

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Noisy. Again, duh. I know all of the things I have mentioned are givens, but they are things that bother me. I can tolerate noise up to a certain point, but trying to have fun/relax and having that much input frazzles me haha.

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Too hot most times, too cold others (but mostly too damn hot): I feel like you have to really map out the ideal day to go to the beach. If you go on a day where there is maybe some heat and a nice breeze, it may be nice to sit around in, but good luck getting into the water (or staying that long without getting goosebumps). If you go on a day when it is deathly hot, the water may feel nice, but then you feel like Satan himself has descended upon the earth and lit the very ground you walk on on fire, and replaced air with fire. Okay, exaggerated a bit, but you know what I mean. When it hits 12 PM – 2 PM, you sit there under your brolly wondering why you’ve subjected yourself to such heat when you could have stayed in a nice air-conditioned environment and gone somewhere after the sun sets. As I say during the summer: I’ll tag along for activities, but outside only after 6PM 🙂 

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Boring: I like beaches when no one is really there. When you can just kind of sit around and listen to everything. Most of the time when people want to go, it is not that time. I find sitting around under the sun for hours boring. If I wanted to just lie down like that I could just stay home and sleep. If I want to go outside and take in some nature, I can go for a nice walk. There’s just no appeal in going to sit and look at people, and if we refer back to reason 1, too many people overwhelms me.

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All in all, those are the reasons I’m not too fond of the beach! I know it’s one of the things many people look forward to, but it’s an activity I can avoid without any qualms. Again, I know these reasons are kind of characteristic of a beach, or many other places, but it’s just how I feel, okay?

What are your thoughts? Any summer activity you’re not too fond of?

-Court