I was sitting around thinking about how much I enjoy reading others’ posts, especially when there is information that helps me grow personally, professionally, or in spirit. In the spirit of keeping things short and sweet, I am just going to drop the links of some posts I really enjoyed this (half) month.
I read an article about vulnerability, and I immediately thought, what a great topic. I can’t remember the name of the article or which site I read it on, but it spoke to me. Vulnerable is the condition of being able to show who you are in the purest form. The ability to express your purest feelings and let them guide you for that moment. I have always thought myself to be vulnerable until I realized I was not…
Studies have shown that student’s attitude towards math will actually affect their success. The simple fact of going to your math class with a negative attitude will truly help you fail. Not because you’re not intelligent, but for the fact that you’re constantly expressing your discontentment of math and whatnot. I wasn’t aware of this study until recently, but my performance in my math classes make a lot of sense now…
Being a relatively new blogger, I’ve found myself struggling to find my voice these last couple of weeks. I’ve been reading articles about how I should hone in on my niche and pick a specific topic to write about consistently. I was getting so frustrated because I’m not ready to pick just one topic; I want to write about a bunch of topics! I’m passionate about fashion and reading and beauty and my dog and I want to write about it all. Maybe as time goes on, I’ll niche down a bit, but for right now I’m self-classified as a lifestyle blogger and that’s okay. But, it got me thinking: What’s the point of lifestyle blogs when there are other blogs that specifically focus on food, or music or health? Why do so many pick on lifestyle bloggers? Why is being a lifestyle blogger given a negative connotation? Why do lifestyle blogs matter? Here is what I came up with:
You’re most likely reading Behind the Schmile..:) because you want to know my thoughts on self-development; well part of becoming a better version of yourself is having the right kinds of people around you, that means getting rid of those that don’t fit the bill. I am the QUEEN of cutting people off, or at least I used to be. In my short lifetime, I have learnt that cutting people off left right and centre is not the best way to go about life, but there are some people that REALLY gotta go. Despite this, there are also some people that you just need to be assertive with so don’t get too scissor happy!
Do you ever at times feel like life throws things at you that you have no idea how to handle which ends up turning you into a stress ball? Are you the kind of person who tries to fix everything whether or not you know how?
…Alas. I am older, I am wiser (I hope, lol). I’ve realised that for many of us, from our formative years and even beyond, loving yourself is not quite so simple unfortunately (which is probably why we often fall so short of loving each other!) If you’re new to my blog, I’ve spoken openly in the past about some of my previous insecurities for example body image, feeling beautiful without makeup and how I’ve learned to embrace who I am through practising self-love and care. In the same way you can teach love, you can teach hate. We could get into the ins and outs of why some of us struggle to love ourselves — societal pressure, comparison, negative social media influences, abuse etc. — but that’s a deep discussion for another day.
This one really hit home, as introversion, depression, and anxiety are at the core of many of the experiences that drove me to create this blog.
As an introvert, I have always valued my alone time. In fact, I would much rather spend days by myself than spend more than 6 hours with any one person. When I was in high school, I had no choice but to have some sort of social interaction whether it was with my friends or teachers. However, I hadn’t realized at the time that it was keeping me afloat. Once you graduate high school, no one tells you that you don’t have to know people. You can operate by solely going to work or college classes, barely talking to anyone. For an introvert, this has a lot of perks but, for a person with depression, this has a lot of drawbacks.
When scrolling through Instagram on any given day, you will easily come across beautiful photos of friends or strangers, depicting themselves as if they are living their best lives. It has been widely discussed and debated online whether or not these views are realistic. Perhaps the most notable argument was that of Essena O’Neill, when she claimed that Instagram doesn’t depict real life. Today I would like to look at the so-called “Instagram Culture” through the eyes of Carl Rogers, a psychologist that lived long before Instagram was a speckle of anybody’s imagination…