“Always do your best. What you planted now, you will harvest later.”
– OG Mandino
This summer has been quite an experience as far as self-love. Part of that journey for me has been coming to terms with my path, and not letting my thoughts of success (or others thoughts) deter me from trying to carve out my future.
For millennials, and college students in particular, there is this immense amount of pressure to “have your life together” by the time you graduate. This pressure has prompted a couple of posts (which you can read here and here). To keep things frank, lately I’ve been feeling like a bit of a failure because of this notion. If you have been feeling this way due to school, or whatever else it may be, keep reading to see some of my tips + affirmations to keep you pushing through.
1. All Things Come In Due Time, Just Keep Trying.
The quote I opened this post with has been my guiding light so far. It reminds me daily that as long as I don’t ever stop pushing to explore my interests, the hard work will materialize. The only way you will never reap any of the benefits of your work is if you don’t put in any work to begin with. So as cliche and annoying as it may sound, trust in the process, but don’t ever become complacent with “nothingness.”
2. Comparison Will Be The Death Of You – Don’t Do It.
It’s natural for us as humans to compare ourselves to each other, but don’t turn it into a habit. I know that is so much easier said than done, but trust me, it’ll save you. If you spend all of your time comparing your progress or moves to those around you, you will undoubtedly end up halting your success. You’ll become so focused on what you’re not doing right that you’ll stop attacking the things you are passionate about with vigor and turn into a big blob of unmotivated self-loathing goop. It’s healthy to get motivated by what those around you are doing, especially those close in your circle, but don’t let that take away from your sense of self.
3. Don’t Lose Sight Of Your Goals
When you fall into a slump, it becomes very hard to stay motivated. You may become plagued with thoughts that you are worthless or undeserving of many things. You may start to succumb to imposter syndrome (which I frequently deal with). This is when someone who is typically a high-achieving individual is unable to accept their successes, and they feel like they are a fraud and will be exposed as such. These feelings may all swirl together and cause you to just toss your goals, as you may begin to think you are not capable of achieving them or that you have scammed your way to where you are. With this, I suggest possibly keeping a vision board or just a journal of goals/achievements. Basically, you want to have a place where you can see your goals so that when you are down, you always have a reminder of what you are striving for.
As with everything, it is easier said than done, but just try to keep these things in mind!